Good Evening Queens. Life may get difficult, the road may seem far, but never let these obstacles keep you from staying consistent to reach the things you may want to achieve. Stay strong, stay positive, and stay open minded always ready to experience change. It’s the way we adapt that helps us realize the meaning of it all. Sometimes the things that may seem to kick us off track, may be things we may need to experience to be a master in what we may want to achieve. Trust the process✨

Self (InToMeISee)

Who we are on the inside has a reflection of who and what we are on the outside. We must be mindful of who we are as individuals so we can know how to deal with those around us. How we view ourselves internally has an impact on our day to day interactions in our personal relationships. Sometimes we treat ourselves so negatively and wonder why we can't be good to those around us. Not knowing that it starts with us first. Before you try to be good to anyone else around you, be of a great person to yourself first. I'm a firm believer in "do unto others as you would want others to do unto you." The best principle to live by is self-evaluation. The behaviors we practice with other people sometimes need to be self-evaluated. Sometimes it's not what we do that may be negative or bad, but how we handle it will determine both the type of person we are and the heart we have.  Let's discover the type of people we are, and work on our heart towards how we deal with others.

Be True Be You

All too often we find ourselves trying or attempting to be something we are not. The best thing you can do for yourself is to be true to yourself. You may find it difficult to be true to others, however, if you don't do anything else, be sure to always be true to you. If we can't be true to ourselves, we can't be true to other people. Anything that you have to fabricate about yourself to someone else, that shows that you aren't comfortable being who you're portraying to be. No one else's happiness matters than your very own. For some people, happiness isn't something they experience all the time but in seasons. I like to believe that during these season's, their is a possibility that a person may have difficulty experiencing happiness or being themselves. The best thing to do during these seasons are things that involve feeling good about yourself. Perhaps you may want to get a new haircut, rearrange your bedroom with some decorations, declutter your belongings, journal, meditate, and listen to music. Doing activities will help to distract you while feeding your spirit in a positive way. Sometimes we have too many distractions around us that may be keeping us from being true to who we are. While we are still young and growing, we are still finding our way in finding ourselves. Being that this is the case, it's important we surround ourselves with people who won't try to alter who we are. Sure change is good, but you have to want it for yourself and not because someone else suggest it. Too many distractions will cloud your judgement of yourself. We don't realize just how much we are influenced by those we may have around us; from the way we talk, to the way we dress, and communicate, we are either negatively or positively impacted by our surroundings. You may not be able to control these influences, but you definitely are able to control how you respond to these influences and deciding whether or not you will be true to you, or to be true to someone else? 

Motivational Monday

Influenced by society and our everyday interactions,  we measure up to what society tells us to be, what our jobs/careers expect us to be, and what school teaches us to be. In the midst of this all, when do we find the time to be ourselves? It takes a special kind of strength to beat the odds of what we are told to be and still being able to obtain our true selves. By being yourself you don't focus on having to impress people. If a person focuses on trying to impress people, they're not being themselves. For example, in situations of empathy, you can act from your value of being empathetic rather than wanting to appear empathetic. Things like this should come from within a person naturally. When a person remains true to themselves, they focus on what they're doing and shut down the inner approval of others. Their main focus is being present in the external world. On this day, I motivate you to be yourself by not worrying about yourself. By analyzing how you may come off to others, and what others are thinking about you, modifying your behavior is appealing to that person's image. Looking at others with yourself in mind, you use them as a mirror and attempt to try to see yourself through that person's eyes and adjust the image of yourself accordingly. I want to both challenge and motivate you to simply shut down wanting to be approved by others. Appreciate who you are even though your flaws; by doing this, people will begin to appreciate you too. People's approval of you is something that isn't needed. However, by being true to yourself, you allow a person the opportunity to accept you for who you are, even if they do not agree with it.