The Importance of Self-Love

Self-Love is important for each and every one of us to possess. The way we speak and view ourselves will develop the likelihood of how our external relationships will develop. One way of being able to develop self-love is by first practicing discipline. When we discipline ourselves, we hold ourselves accountable. Accountability and discipline are practices that we should all try to carry amongst ourselves because as a result of practicing those things we find self-love within ourselves. It can become very difficult to develop external relationships if one doesn’t practice the art of self-love within. This can potentially become an issue with forming personal relationships because we cannot give to others, what we don’t give to ourselves as individuals. We all have a choice to be our best selves. At times, certain things are embedded within us because of our family dynamics and genetics. Some may not know how to practice self-love simply because it wasn’t taught to them. One should not worry if they are unsure of how to develop self-love. Everything as far as our experiences that make us who we are, are all temporary. We can always ask for the help of how to gain self-love from ones around us who practice self-love the best and who are emotionally mature. Everything of who we are and our development will help shape us for our future. Even ones who may not possess self-love just yet, this experience will allow you measure of nostalgia, simply because you’ll see how far you’ve come and all that it was you had to overcome. We just have to remember that what we are at times is temporary because we are constantly molding into beautiful beings every day.

Gratefulness

It’s possible that many of us may be going through a season where we have lost loved ones or ones that we hold near and dear. I myself experience the season of missing loved ones around the holidays. The holidays can be hard for some because it is a time where we are embracing our loved ones around us. It’s more than just a holiday or festivities. Yes, the dinner is good and we enjoy the time being around our loved ones. However, it is the act of creating a tradition that may make the holiday season hard for some of us. We begin to become accustomed to these traditions we create with our loved ones. Though the holiday season becomes bittersweet each year, what I am learning most is to embrace the things that are still around me. I hold the people that are no longer here in my heart. I’m very grateful for the experiences that I’m still capable of participating in with my family I still do have. This is the season of gratefulness and thankfulness. Thankful for the opportunity of being able to slow down in life, enjoy family time, and reflect on memories. There is beauty in being able to reflect and appreciate things during this season of giving. Though we may not still have the things that we hold near and dear to our hearts anymore, those loved ones would want us to continue to live life and enjoy the beauty of the holiday season. It’s important to be grateful during all these moments of life because we never know when it’ll be our time to go. Enjoy the new experiences with your friends/family, create new traditions, and memories to continue to carry along your family line.

Keep Faith Alive

I believe this is a time of year where we all worldwide are experiencing a test of faith. Things are occurring in our life that we cannot control or we are stepping into new unforeseen areas of uncertainty. As individuals, I know we are normally used to being able to control things or the results of how something may turn out. However, let’s not become accustomed to being able to control everything. Let’s train our minds to understand that change is okay to endure and adapt to. We may not know all the answers to our circumstances right now or in the near future, and that’s okay. During the stages of uncertainty, we should find faith in these times of the unknown. The unknown can be fearful, but sitting in fear causes us to live a life of limitation. We aren’t able to fully live our lives if we walk around being fearful because we are constantly in the thought of the “what if” factor. A balance of mental health is the only way one can possess faith. How we think for starters will determine whether or not we are able to keep faith and hope alive within ourselves. Even if we aren’t able to always be perfect one hundred percent of the times, it’s imperative we surround ourselves with people who can instill into us when we are lacking. We should all act as vessels to one another so that we are always being our best selves for ourselves. We have all been placed here to teach one another. No worries if things don’t make sense in your life today. Remember to keep the faith and understand that things occur in life when we least expect it. Things may not come to us when we want them, but they will always come when we need them to and when it is their time.

The Wisdom of Mental Discipline

I’m currently in a transition in life where I know exactly where I would like to be in career and life choice wise. However, currently where I actually am right now is what keeps me distracted from reaching my actual goal. When I say distraction I don’t mean it as a bad thing of course, but as being distracting mentally when I’m operating in those settings. Every day I train my mind to mentally be my best self even if I don’t want to be in a certain setting. We have to always be our best selves when going through transitions in life. I try to be as optimistic as possible because I am in total control of whatever the outcome will be. We crave the idea of success and at some moments, we forget the things that we are currently blessed with in our lives. On this month of November, be thankful for the things life has to give; the good, bad, ugly, and indifferent. Even if we aren’t solely operating in our purpose in life just yet, be grateful for the current standing you have in life. It’s best to be humble amongst adversity because it teaches us to appreciate all moments and not just the moments where we are blessed. I started to realize that these current moments I’m going through in life right now will be useful towards my future with how I choose to handle situations of adversity. The moment I started to appreciate where I currently was in life, that’s when the things I wanted and prayed for started to flow into my life.

Journey to Self-Love

As we live our life, we may question why God places certain people in our lives at certain points. We try to find the answer to unforeseen circumstances. I know this because I practice this every day wondering why I cross paths with certain individuals. It’s human instinct to question why a person is in your life or may want to be in your life. Although a person may say one thing, in due time you may find their true face and meaning of their true existence in your life. Time is a measurable expectancy that allows you to understand that all people go on a journey with time. We are all human beings trying to find out who we are and how to particularly love ourselves. This is the journey of self-love that we all embark upon. It’s just so unfortunate that within this journey, people may get hurt. Individuals possess a certain level of strength if they're able to embark on the journey of self-love and not bring someone into their chaos while they do so; hence collateral damage. We have to sit in the comfort of ourselves and deal with our issues. If we can’t do so right away it is okay. Slowly pace yourself by taking it a day at a time where a couple of hours out of the day you aren’t on social media, talking to any friends or family, and just giving yourself your full undivided attention. Play your favorite indie music or nature soundscapes, light some candles, take a nice bubble bath and just focus your mind on the things that you love about yourself. As you begin to come up with these things, verbally begin to say them aloud so that your mind can gain the confidence in knowing the true love you have for yourself. That’s just a simple practice that can be done a few days out of the week so that you can begin to first affirm to yourself the things you already love about yourself. By doing this we begin on the journey of dealing with your flaws or shortcomings that we can confront in private and not involve others in the midst. Although it’s a few hours out of the day, the gesture sets the tone for you to then focus on because you know you love yourself, you’ll begin to pay attention to those around you, and wonder if they love you just the same as you love yourself. Practicing self-love helps you opt people out of your life who don’t love you the same way you do them. It’s not to judge but it’s to be aware that they too may be on the journey of self-love.

Puzzled Reflection

At what point when situations don’t work out so we question if we may be the reason as to why? When conflict arises it’s good to self-reflect and be sure that you aren’t the cause of it all. In some cases, as individuals, we can be toxic and not even realize it because we are blinded by what that person may have personally done to us to cause our pain as a reaction. With self-reflection, we shouldn’t make what others do to us the reason or issue as to why we may become disconnected with others. Perhaps we can look at these situations of adversity as opportunities to check ourselves. If we are in situations where we are pushing those around us away, it’s important to look at the mistakes we might’ve made throughout the course of a relationship. We aren’t less worthy if we push people around us away. We can keep growing and constantly looking for ways to improve as individuals. By looking at these mistakes, we can own them, grow from them and move in by applying those lessons to our lives. I like to think that we are our very own personal puzzles. At times, it calls for us to have to take our puzzle pieces out that may already be in place, in order to arrange and make room for another piece to conclude the project. That’s how we are as human beings constantly expanding, growing, and adding things to ourselves to change how we appear.