Control the Controllable

Have you ever experienced sharing your energy with a person that you may not like or necessarily get along with, and then after complaining about it? If your response is yes; it’s time for you to control the controllable in your life. What I mean by this is, instead of complaining about a person bringing you negative energy or taking you out of character, don’t allow them to do so. You may not be able to control the actions of others, but you can control your actions and how you choose to respond. To best practice controlling the controllable, we have to look at access and the amount that we may provide to individuals. A person can’t interrupt our peace or character if we don’t allow them access to; meaning the ability to reach out to us. By removing access, we show that we will no longer permit toxicity or negativity. When we recognize the shift our environment makes due to a person’s energy being toxic, we have to decide to prioritize our peace and not get sucked in by negativity. It’s very easy to complain about a person. However, we have to look at how ineffective and draining complaining can really be to our lives. It takes more energy to complain. You have to begin to show people what you will and will not tolerate. When we set the tone, we show people just how much we are willing to prioritize our peace. Compromising your peace should never be an option. Be the person that’s in full control of yourself, and don’t bother to try to involve yourself with other people’s actions. When building any type of relationship, one of the most important things is the responsibility of yourself as an individual. By holding yourself accountable, you put the expectation that you are only in control of your actions alone.

Ridding Yourself of Emotional Baggage

When you think of life, what do you feel is its greatest asset? I know when I think of life and all it has to offer I automatically think about time. Time is life’s greatest attribute. Why? Well because it is one of the most important key factors in our life we can control. We all are given the same hours in a day. It’s how we spend it that’ll differentiate us from the next person. Although we can control how we spend our time, we shouldn’t take for granted the amount of time given to us because we never know when our time will come. It’s crucial that we don’t spend our life harboring bad feelings towards people who may have wronged us or people in general. Harboring bad feelings takes energy and time away from the positive that we can be giving to ourselves. We don’t pay attention to how much we live in our past through our present day. Don’t expect to go forward in life when you continue to look back. It’s almost like driving a car on the highway. You have to keep your eyes on what’s in front of you. If you look back and take your eyes off the road, you’ll cause a full-on collision with what’s in front of you. That’s how we have to treat our lives when it comes to the emotional part of us. Heal through our process of emotional pain, however, do not own your feelings that you allow for it to become a home of pain. We cannot expect to experience happiness if all we ever boast about are the things that have hurt us. Talking through emotional pain may work for some people because whenever they talk about it, they gain strength to keep preserving through life since they’ve overcome that very thing it is they thought they couldn’t. Words are powerful and can create life or death which is why we shouldn’t spend too much time giving our energy to pain. We have to think of pain as the key to teaching us how to love and happiness. We cannot endure either of these things without knowing what pain feels like. It is our pain that equips us to move ahead and forward through life.

Tapping Into Your Worth

Although we may not be perfect in someone else's eyes, we have to always remember to know our own worth. We can't expect people to see the value of who and what we are if we do not see it on our own. People will always treat us how we decide to either treat ourselves or how we present ourselves to others. It is important that we tap into our worth before we form intimate or platonic friendships. Without tapping into our worth we fall victim to any type of treatment. Always remember that when you stand for nothing you fall for anything. The bonds and relationships we form with others are very important. However, we must be sure to have a healthy relationship within ourselves first and foremost. Never let a person's perception dictate the way you view yourself as an individual. Take constructive criticism about things that you should improve about yourself, but don't live in the opinion of someone else's view. People will call you a thousand and one things but it isn't about what people call you and about what you answer to.  Life is too short to walk around living in the view of how other's may want you to maneuver through life. You are the piolet in your life and the controller of your own happiness. Do not let people take you granted nor should you settle for less. When a person begins to tap and fully operate into their worth, they do not let people come into their lives giving them anything less than what they know they deserve. We won't always be one hundred percent all the time with ourselves, but what counts most is that we constantly operate within the journey of finding our true value. I challenge all you Queens to find your worth then add tax to it.